Monday, September 21, 2020

Dale Carnegie's How to Enjoy Your Life and Your Job.

 If you have read Shiv Khera's You Can Win, loved it, then read Dale Carnegie's How to Enjoy Your Life and Your Job.  You will realize which one is the mother and which one is the daughter-in-law. 

As our construction industry is halting its pace, and as much as leisure time that I am getting, I had to re-orient few things at home. While doing so, a comfortable chair was placed next to the pile of books. As much as I enjoyed and loved reading, with the pace of construction industry and the chores involved, I had slowed my habit of reading: perhaps, the wheels on fast lanes of construction industry didn't care apart from the contract documents that we had to read, rest were all pan dokan wrapping papers for us. If Sashi Tahroor came into this industry, he would have been sent home the first hour, a man with word-ed tongue cannot shovel earth - dry or wet! Words are only taken as tokens of promises, despite being it bombastic or not, they have their own karmic repercussions and events. An industry that doesn't give a f**k about your health or relatives dying, who would care more for one's personal skills with words. 

With time, as we proceeded with our works, me and my friends landed up doing few of the buildings and seldom we mentioned about them to those people who understood our works, rest either criticized or didn't understand or just complimented. To each their own, we said, while sipping whiskey and smoking cigarettes, creating ashes and urinating filtered brewed liquid. But, the quest of trying to be the best, was always in our heads. We wanted not to skip items in our BOQs, and we only proposed things which were feasible in our market - no, we didn't put Holographic teleprompter in our 3D models nor did we propose flying buildings - we were realistic. 

But with time, as the works increased, we found ourselves being faltered. Perhaps, due to over working, a sense of burden or dew drops of fatigue accompanied us – I personally started to have a heavy feeling beneath my back.

As I arranged the lamp next to the chair and started to read Traveling with Che Guevara by Alberto Granado, I promised to myself that I will revive my old habit of reading. I will not waste time on being stressed with work and land up binge eating or binge watching youtube. Three days being on journey with Poderosa II, Fuser and Alberto, somewhere while I was feeling that the meadows of Latin America were caressing my feet – as I rested, I laid my hand on this book. Who is this guy who looks like Theodre Roosevelt, I thought?

I was engrossed with this book and I learned that it was my destiny to be there. The book answered all my questions that I have been asking myself lately, the thoughts that bothered me. The book taught me about how to re-organize myself and it also taught me how to cope up with certain things at work. 

Previously, I was feeling very much fatigued and I chose to watch youtube videos rather than read or write. I also questioned myself because I am facing a stressful situation at work, with adamant scurrilious people. I also lacked discipline to keep my desk clean. 

The book taught me that we feel fatigued not because we overwork our minds or bodies. We feel tired when we feel that we have not achieved something. Hence, we should attack few works, achieve things step by step. This was not new, but I put it in to practice and boy I did feel relieved. I also started to clean my desk and only put files which I was working upon, rest I didn’t keep it on table. Rest works, were on my list, but the papers were on the shelf.

In my lifetime, which is a very short one, compared to many who boasts their experiences in one firm for three decades or more, I have met with many folks. I didn’t know that Mr. Dale and I were on the same page while it came for handling people. I from my little experience and Mr. Dale from his own vast life events and studying lives of famous figures. The only thing the book taught me was not to criticize directly, which I didn’t. But sarcasm is also of no good, because nobody wants to be criticized.

One of the organizations that I have been working, had been targeting me personally. The book taught me that unjust criticism is often disguised compliment. And who doesn’t love compliments? Whimsical as we might be, but we should never succumb to faltering due to criticisms which are not true. The book was right, how I felt sorry for those who wanted to paint us with their opinions, because they were not capable or competent with their works. How sad it might be for them, to not see what you could, yet they have to put up with you and try to bring you down with false accusations? I felt sorrier for them and how I wished for forgiveness, to point out mistakes in their drawings, but had we not done it, we would have landed up erring more than we could ask for forgiveness. Money that could have been drained into gutter.

I recommend this book to all the people at this juncture of your lives. I can understand that after a decade or so, you want to be re-motivated. You don’t have to escape from your jobs under the blankets of transfer or masters in fields which you aren’t sure about or quitting, you just need to learn how to handle things at work. As human beings, we despise chaos and love order, and order begins with rejuvenation of some form. 

The main highlights of the book are attached below, and if you skip all the stories related by the author then the following becomes the bullet points. But we are sapiens, we love to relate events with phrases, so that we can remember better. There are many stories of Roosevelt and Uncle Abe in it.



One of the few metaphors I liked from the book was how flattery and compliments were compared with counterfeit currency and actual money. Do read to understand more, it is not my job to write the entire story here. Be curious, read along. 




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